The State of Affairs by Esther Perel

The State of Affairs by Esther Perel

I haven’t recommended a book in awhile, but this one and it’s insights into infidelity has struck me deeply.

I don’t know many people whose lives have not been at least touched, if not turned upside down, by this age old phenomenon.

Reading it has brought up many memories for me – as the child of messily divorced parents, as the humiliated wife, and as the cheater.

By the time we get to menopause, most of us have had at least two or three significant relationships, and made our share of mistakes in one way or another!

The problem is that too often we are left with a lot of baggage and not many productive positive ways to sort it all out.

I watched my mom and many other women her age in the 1970’s destroyed by resentment and humiliation – their identities and trust crushed and seemingly never to be retrieved.

So when I began reading this book, and reliving some of those painful experiences from the past from a new perspective, I felt the kind of healing I always wished for my mom, and ironically, thought I didn’t need.

I hope that if this is something you have struggled with, you will find it healing as well.

Katherine Miller

Katherine is the founder of As an executive health coach and master plant-powered chef, she specializes in Mbodied Mastery for ambitious professional women, empowering them to live the life they love and make their mark in the world.